
Hilda O'Callaghan with Dr Barry Mendelawitz
Our guest speaker, Hilda O’Callaghan, is a long time colleague of Barry and Margaret Mendalawitz through the Citizens Advice Bureau. Barry described Hilda as a shining light for her advocacy for children here in WA and in South Africa.
Hilda was passionate in her talk about everyone’s need to feel safe, particularly children. One of the principle aims of Protective Behaviours is to teach children on a level that they understand, when they do not feel safe or comfortable in their dealings with adults.
Hilda used the analogy of the way our brain works, and how we recognise danger. Our body responds to threats through early warning signs through our five senses.
Children often do not know that they have a choice where they can feel safe all of the time and that they can talk with someone any time.
The program was established and promoted by WA Police in 1990 and through free information sessions, parent workshops and practitioner training for children in early education, primary and high schools in South Africa in 2010.
Children are asked how they feel when they are nervous or afraid and they are given the vocabulary which includes correct terminology for body parts and tools to describe a variety of sensations – headache, butterflies, their heart pounds fast, sweaty palms, shaky knees, an urge for the toilet, pain in their stomach and goosebumps.
They are taught if they are feeling any of these sensations around adults that they can talk to someone any time. The best network is five trusted adults who are available, will listen, will believe and will take action.
They must keep telling these trusted adults until they get help. The power of abuse lies in the secret – children learn that no-one is to touch, see or take pictures of their body without consent.
Hilda has produced story and colouring books which appeal to children of all ages through her fundraising work in WA. Her most recent edition was funded by money raised sponsoring her to climb Table Mountain!
Members were extremely moved by her passion and empathy for children who simply need to be taught early warning signs of when they feel unsafe and they can make the choice to tell someone and make it stop.